What It Actually Feels Like When Spirit Comes Through from a Psychic Medium
Most folks come to their first mediumship reading expecting something dramatic and most people leave surprised by how quiet, precise, and deeply physical the real experience actually is.
TV built a particular image of mediumship that has very little to do with what genuinely happens when spirit communication occurs. You know, all the dramatic revelations, theatrical moments, and the convenient delivery of exactly what the grieving person most needs to hear in the most emotionally impactful sequence possible… Just know that production does what it does to create compelling entertainment. They have to keep the entertainment going but in all actuality it’s a real disservice to the folks who arrive at a reading with that template as their reference point.
This blog will discuss what it actually feels like, from my side of the reading and from the side of the people who have sat across from me, because I think the honest account is both more interesting and more useful than the dramatized one.
What It Feels Like From My Side
Spirit communication doesn’t arrive like a voice from outside, projected into the room from a specific direction and audible for everyone present, nope. It arrives more like a knowing that lands in the body before it reaches the conscious mind, a shift in the quality of the internal environment that is distinct from my own thinking in a way I have learned, through years of development and training, to recognize and trust.
It often begins with sensing an energy whether dominantly feminine or masculine, then the relationship, before the personality. I see energy as though it’s being projected to me from behind and brought to the front of my awareness. That’s the best way that I can explain it, rather like an impression of how they want to present. I allow myself to connect more with their energy and ask them to come closer to receive rather than try. Trying happens when I get in my own way. Working is allowing Spirit in to share what they want me to share. The evidential occurs throughout this time and discernment is a learned skill in how I differentiate between my energy and the energy of Spirit, collectively.
The brightness reminds me of Spirit energy.
Although the moments of clearest connection have a particular quality that I can only describe as alignment, when what I’m receiving, what I’m saying, and what’s landing for the person across from me are all moving in the same direction at the same time, and in those moments something in the room shifts in a way that’s palpable to everyone present. The information that comes through in those moments tends to be the most specific, the most evidential, and the most impossible to attribute to generalization or lucky guess.
Most importantly know that before each and every session or event I ask for only loved ones who have had good relationships with the sitter and are good communicators to come in, because boundaries are absolutely necessary in this work.
What It Feels Like From the Other Side
The folks who have sat across from me describe the experience in several recurring ways that are worth naming, because they may be useful to someone preparing for a first reading or trying to make sense of a reading they have already had.
This was the funniest Spirit I’ve interacted with in a very long time. April 2026.
Prior clients have described a physical response before they have consciously registered what was said or even an experience of feeling a sudden welling of emotion or a warmth in the chest that arrives in the same moment that a specific piece of information is offered. Physical response is often the most reliable indicator that something genuine is occurring, because it’s too immediate to be the result of rational processing.
The most commonly reported experience isn’t the one folks expect, which was a dramatic confirmation of everything they most hoped to hear, but rather the arrival of something specific and unremarkable that only they could recognize, a particular word their person used, a detail about a specific object or memory or habit that had no place in any generalized description of grief, and the specificity of that detail is what makes it evidential, because it could not have been generated by a general understanding of what grieving people need.
Clients have also described the experience of feeling the presence of their loved one outside of simply receiving information about them, and this presence is often described along with an emotional quality that belonged to their loved one in life, and some even describe a particular kind of warmth or humor or steadiness that is recognizable even when it is not being articulated in words.
What Spirit Communication Is NOT
It’s not a performance and it’s not a guaranteed delivery of exactly what you came for, because neither of those things is in my control or in yours. You need to know that the communication is guided by whatever wisdom governs what the person on the other side offers and what serves the person receiving the reading in that specific moment.
It’s not always comforting in the immediate sense, because sometimes what comes through is challenging, clarifying, or pointing toward something you as the client has been avoiding. A reading that delivers only comfort without ever pointing toward anything difficult is a reading that may be reflecting the Medium’s wish to please more than the actual communication of Spirit, which is an experience you won’t have with me.
It’s also not a substitute for grief, because the connection confirms the continuation of the relationship but it doesn’t replace the process of moving through the loss, and the women I work with who receive the most from mediumship readings are the ones who are also doing the grief work alongside the spiritual work, not using one as an escape from the other.
Again, no spiritual bypassing bullshit here.
If You’re Considering a Reading
What I want you to know before you sit across from me either in person or virtually is that I will bring everything I’ve developed over 16 years of training, practice, and continued development to the session. You need to know that what arrives will be guided by something larger than either of our intentions, and that whatever comes through will be offered with full ethical accountability and full commitment to your wellbeing as the person receiving it.
I would also want you to know that the most open you can come and the less tightly you hold a specific expectation about what the reading should deliver, the more available you’ll be to receive what is actually present rather than evaluating everything against what you came hoping for.
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With care and intention,
Amber Choisella
